How God’s Love Helps Us Break Free From Comparison

God’s Love: The Antidote to Comparison

In a world that weighs our worth based on achievements, image, and influence, it’s easy to question whether we are truly loved for who we are. Yet the Bible invites us to rest in a truth that never changes—that God’s love is impartial, steadfast, and free.

In a recent episode of the Coffee and Bible Time Podcast, Ellen (our very own Mentor Mama) is joined by guest Oghosa Iyamu, to explore this powerful reality: that God’s love welcomes everyone without favoritism.

“We talk a lot about God’s love, but how often do we sit with the truth that His love is impartial? That He doesn’t play favorites, isn’t swayed by status or success, and doesn’t wait for us to measure up before welcoming us in.”

Ellen Krause

Because ultimately, it is only when we rest in God’s love that we are also able to reflect that same impartial love to others.

God’s Love Is Just, Impartial, and Welcoming

Oghosa began by defining what it means for God to be impartial:

“God does not judge based on a person’s visible status or lack thereof. God sees beyond wealth, He sees beyond influence, He sees beyond merit, and God evaluates every human heart with perfect justice and righteousness.”

From Isaiah 55:1, where God calls, “Come, everyone who is thirsty,” to Deuteronomy 10:17, where He is declared as “not partial and takes no bribes,” Scripture reveals a consistent truth — God’s love is not earned by position, wealth, or perfection.

Oghosa beautifully summarized:

“The depth to which we dare to believe that we are impartially loved by God becomes the depth to which we are able to open our arms wide and welcome others.”

Oghosa Iyamu

Because when we are convinced of the truth of God’s love, our hearts naturally overflow with that same love toward others.

Reflect:

• Who around you needs a reminder of God’s unconditional welcome?
• How might you extend God’s love beyond your comfort zone?

God’s Love Is Received, Not Earned

But being a believer doesn’t mean it’s not a struggle to truly rest in God’s love. Oghosa explains:

“There are so many cultural filters that we have today… like you are what you achieve or you are loved only when you prove yourself worthy. But to embrace the impartial welcome of God, we must lay down those metrics and measures of worth and status.”

Oghosa Iyamu

In a culture that teaches us that we have more (or less) value based on how we look, who we know, and what we do, it can be difficult to believe that God is any different from the people we know and fear.

But from the very beginning, before Adam and Eve did anything, they were fully loved and dignified by their Creator. We learn from them that our worth flows not from what we do: but from Whose image we bear.

“Our dignity, our worth does not come from striving. It’s not from being better than someone else… It exists because this has been ordained from the very beginning.”

Oghosa Iyamu

Reflect:

• When have you felt tempted to earn God’s love?
• How can you rest more fully in His grace today?

Jesus Modeled God’s Love Through Radical Welcome

When Ellen asked how Jesus demonstrated impartial love, Oghosa shared with joy:

“The parables, Ellen! I love the parables. One-third of Jesus’s teaching was in parables, and He consistently turned this honor and shame culture of His day upside down.”

Jesus held up the outcast—the persistent widow, the prodigal son and the father who forgave him, the Samaritan—as people we should imitate. Each story reveals that God’s love reaches for those who the world overlooks.

“Who you think is worthy of being invited, who you think should be invited, is actually not always who God is inviting… Oftentimes He is inviting those who we think are undeserving and unworthy.”

Oghosa Iyamu

This is the gospel: none of us are worthy, yet all of us are welcomed through God’s love in Christ.

Reflect:

• How can you follow Jesus’ example of radical welcome this week?
• Who might need to be reminded that they are seen and loved by God?

Oghosa offered simple, heartfelt ways to reflect God’s love daily:

1. Be intentional with neighbors — a smile, a kind word, or a shared meal.
2. Notice those who are alone in church or at work.
3. Remember names. Look people in the eyes. Remind them they are seen by God.

Even small acts of kindness become sacred reflections of God’s love.

“There are so many ways to show people that they have dignity, that they are seen and loved and known by the Creator of the universe before we ever even get to the gospel.”

Oghosa Iyamu

Final Reflection: God Sees You and Loves You

Oghosa closed with a reminder rooted in the story of Hagar:

“God isn’t just concerned with us seeing Him rightly. God wants us to know that He sees us… God sees our specific situation, our unspoken desires, and our fight against sin.”

Like Hagar, we can proclaim, “You are the God who sees me.” (Genesis 16:13)

Friend, no matter your story, your struggle, or your season—God’s love sees you, welcomes you, and calls you His own. You are forever loved, forever seen, and forever welcomed.

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